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Writer's pictureJ.Yuhas

How To Turn Your Relationship Right Side Up


Feeling frustrated with where you are at in your relationship? You are doing everything in your power not to lose your cool but your emotions are at an all-time high as you are barely sleeping at night. Every time you bring things up to talk about how you are feeling with your partner, they either dismiss your emotions or gaslight you by flipping the script back onto you.


You and your partner have great chemistry and talk about future relationship goals, but the day-to-day interactions seem to leave you in an uproar because it feels like you come second to last in their life. While you feel amazing when together, you are confused about what happens when you are apart. It's almost as if you are dating two different people.


The ups and downs are starting to take a toll on your emotional health, but you can’t let go because you want the relationship to be consistent every day. One minute you are in love and the next minute you got one foot out the door, questioning whether or not you should stay or go.


Here Are 6 Things To Turn Your Relationship Right Side Up:


1. Establish A Safe Space For Honest Communication

It can be challenging to turn your relationship around if you or your partner don’t feel safe communicating your deepest concerns. Keeping things bottled up or not fully expressing your thoughts can leave you feeling unfulfilled or even having resentment until you see your partner again.


Creating a safe space for you and your partner can allow each of you to open up and talk about what you need in the relationship without fear of judgment. This will create alignment with each other and help get on the same page. The goal of forming a secure connection with your partner comes from honoring the relationship as a whole versus making it about you versus them. When you are able to share in a way that doesn’t attack your partner's character and ask for what you need, you will have a sense of relief and openness that gives you each a sense of inner peace.


Relationship Tip: Showing vulnerability is key to building deeper emotional intimacy and overcoming your differences as a team.


2. Have Empathy For Your Partner’s Perspective

While you may be feeling at a crossroads in your connection, being able to show empathy for your partner’s perspective shows mutual respect for the relationship. As much as you may feel like you are the one putting in all the work to keep the relationship together, understanding the way your partner thinks or feels about a particular situation will only bring them closer to you.


If you are set on things being your way or feeling like you have already made changes yet they still aren’t doing enough to meet your needs, then taking a step back and deciding what’s important to you may be key to helping you adjust your mindset. Wanting immediate changes will not happen overnight as you or your partner may have old emotional wounds or expectations from past relationships. Transformation takes time, so having patience and perseverance will be helpful as you shift the dynamic of your relationship.


Relationship Tip: Patience will be your friend while seeking understanding with your partner.





3. Express Your Needs From A Place of Value

Using emotion to express your nee