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Unlock your ultimate power and master the art of setting boundaries as you embark on a transformative journey within the pages of BOUNDARY BADASS.

This self-empowerment book will guide you to break free from feelings of powerlessness, build stronger relationships, and elevate your inherent value.

A boundary book and workbook all in one!

Boundary Badass was released on Amazon March 28th and became the #1 International Best Seller in the categories of Emotions and Mental Health, Business Management, Entrepreneurship, Business Development and Entrepreneurship, Professional Management and Leadership, & Business Management and Leadership within just a few hours of launch. Reaching Best-Selling Status in the US and Canada, The UK, and Netherlands in 68 Best-Selling Categories, including 10 of them ranking #1. Jan and Jillian have been featured in ABC, FOX, CBS, and various other media outlets for their work in elevating others' value and relationships.

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Jan and Jillian

Relationship & Conflict Resolution Consultants

Their inspiring journey began when the sisterly duo went through a culture shock of moving from a rural farm town of 900 to a metropolitan city of 3 million, enduring some hard lessons. Going through relationship hurdles both personally and professionally, they realized emotion-based techniques were never going to meet their needs and needed stronger boundaries. After adjusting their communication style and using their value-based framework, they went from feeling powerless to valuable in their relationships. As International Best Sellers, becoming a global resource for individuals who want to elevate their value and cultivate thriving relationships.

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Setting boundaries is the integrity to respect ourselves while simultaneously understanding perspectives outside of our own for mutual respect.

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Feeling bored in your relationship? It’s more common than you think. Couples often fall into routines that feel comfortable but can lead to stagnation. This monotony can make your connection feel predictable, but it’s not the end—it’s an opportunity to reignite the spark! ⚡️ ❤️‍🔥

Boredom usually stems from a lack of novelty, shared excitement, or communication. Breaking out of it doesn’t require grand gestures; it’s about intentional changes. Try something new together, like a cooking class, hiking a new trail, or simply switching up your date night routine.

Remember, curiosity and effort are the antidotes to boredom. When you invest in creating new experiences, you deepen your bond, strengthen communication, and rediscover why you fell in love in the first place.

What’s one way you and your partner keep things exciting? Share your ideas below! 💡❤️

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Setting boundaries isn’t about conflict; it’s about clarity, connection, and constructive communication.

When you lead with respect for yourself and others, you invite honest conversations and foster relationships built on trust, not assumption.

Boundaries are your way of saying: This is how I value myself, and here’s how we can thrive together by asking each person to voice their perspective.

Boundaries allow for collaboration where both people feel heard and understood. Ands it’s all about “WE” not just “ME”

Have you read our International Bestseller—BOUNDARY BADASS? It will change the way you approach conversations with confidence and support what you need without fear or jeopardizing the connection.

The Boundary Badass Method was created to allow for open communication where both individuals feel safe to express without worry while promoting growth in the relationship.

Grab your copy and start reading today.

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Being on the receiving end of an anxious person can feel like navigating a storm while holding steady.

It challenges your patience, empathy, and communication, but it also teaches you the power of understanding, the importance of self-care, and the beauty of unconditional love.

Supporting them while maintaining your own emotional health creates a stronger, more resilient bond for both of you.

While it can be overwhelming, it’s your cue to take care of you and set boundaries for the relationship where you both can respect each other in harmony.

Grab our International Bestseller Boundary Badass to understand anxious attachment style and know how to set healthy boundaries for mutual respect with a partner, family, friends, or business colleagues.

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Your values are your compass, guiding you toward what feels safe and true. Staying in a relationship that dishonors them means betraying yourself—and that kind of pain runs deep. Choose you. Always.🤍

Not sure what your top 5 relationship values are? Check out Chapter 4 in our book Boundary Badass.

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Respectability isn’t just about how others see you—it’s about how you show up for yourself.

🙌🏽When you honor boundaries, you communicate your worth.

🫶🏼When you lead with integrity, you build trust that stands the test of time.

🦻🏽Listening shows respect for others, while composure in challenging moments reflects strength and self-control.

✌🏽Being respectable creates a ripple effect in life. It fosters deeper relationships, unlocks professional opportunities, and cultivates inner peace.

Respectability isn’t a status; it’s a choice—a daily commitment to your values and growth.

Grab your copy of BOUNDARY BADASS today. Link in bio.

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Hiding in your relationship feels like drowning in silence, with your true self buried under the weight of fear and doubt.

Pretending you’re fine chips away at your soul, leaving you feeling invisible in a space where love should thrive.

Vulnerability can be scary, but staying hidden steals your chance at authentic connection.

It’s time to break free and let yourself be seen—because love deserves the real you. 🤍

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✨ Your self-worth isn’t up for debate—it’s your birthright. ✨

No one can measure your value because no one else has lived your journey, felt your struggles, or celebrated your wins the way you have.

When you let others define your worth, you hand them the power to shape your confidence and peace.

Instead, own it: Your worth starts and ends with you.

Remember:
✨Your self-worth isn’t tied to achievements or approval; it’s tied to who you are, not what you do.
✨External opinions are fleeting. Your self-belief is what lasts.
✨You are the only one qualified to set the standards for your value.

🌟 Don’t let comparisons, criticisms, or compliments dictate your self-worth. Your worth is inherent—it’s about embracing your truth and standing confidently in it every day. 🌟

Looking for more advice on how to develop or own your worth, read chapter 4 in Boundary Badass. Link in bio

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Ever been caught off guard when someone lashes out with a rude comment or slips a sly remark mid conversation?

In the moment, you may want to hide, run, laugh, or attack back…

But it’s better to respond with confidence then show them they are getting the best of you.

How to maintain your personal power when someone drops a rude comment:

1. That’s interesting. Could you explain what you meant?
2. Let’s keep things respectful between us.
3. What did you say? I want to make sure I heard you correctly.
4. Where did that comment come from?
5. How about we focus on a positive topic?

Which one would you keep in your front pocket next time you experience someone throwing shade your way?

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The more aligned you are with your truth and values, the easier it becomes to see when others are trying to manipulate you. When you’re grounded in who you are and what you stand for, their tactics lose their power. You stop doubting yourself, see the games for what they are, and respond with clarity and confidence. Staying true to your values is your greatest shield against manipulation—and your strongest guide toward peace and authenticity.

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“Yes, but” statements are like spinning your wheels in the mud of miscommunication—they feel like movement but keep you stuck. This phrase dismisses the positive acknowledgment of “yes” and shifts focus to contradiction, creating defensiveness instead of connection. Psychologically, it undermines collaboration by signaling disagreement or invalidation, even when the intent may be to find common ground.

Next time you feel the urge to say “yes, but,” pause and reframe. Try “yes, and” to build on ideas, or share your perspective directly without negating the other person’s. This subtle shift can turn tension into teamwork, fostering solutions instead of stalemates.

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Being avoided in a relationship can bring a storm of emotions: confusion, rejection, loneliness, frustration, and even resentment.

It leaves you questioning your worth, overthinking what went wrong, and feeling disconnected.

We are here to remind you—avoidance says more about the other person than it does about you.

You deserve clarity, respect, and relationships that nurture connection, not distance.

Grab your personal copy of Boundary Badass so you can have a healthy relationship and don’t stay on the receiving end of an avoidant partner.

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Your attachment style in romantic relationships often reflects the emotional patterns you experienced with caregivers as a child.

🔹 Secure Attachment: You likely feel at ease with emotional closeness, open communication, and resolving conflicts in healthy ways. You trust in the relationship’s stability and your partner’s reliability.

🔹 Anxious Attachment: You might find yourself craving constant reassurance, fearing abandonment, or overanalyzing your partner’s actions. Your need for validation can sometimes create a cycle of emotional highs and lows.

🔹 Avoidant Attachment: You may shy away from emotional intimacy or vulnerability, preferring independence over closeness. This can lead to creating distance, even when a deeper connection is needed or desired.

The good news: These patterns aren’t permanent.

With self-awareness and effort, you can rewire your attachment style to build healthier, more fulfilling connections.

The journey to secure attachment begins with understanding yourself. What’s your attachment style, and how does it influence your relationships?

If you are on a personal development journeys you can read more about attachment styles in our book Boundary Badass. Link in bio

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When we set boundaries, we’re not pushing people away—we’re inviting the right people closer.

Boundaries are a powerful form of self-respect that encourage mutual respect. They create a space where everyone knows their role, making relationships clearer and more genuine.

Healthy boundaries are the foundation of trust and connection, allowing each person to show up authentically.

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High-value individuals don’t chase validation, point fingers, or neglect their growth because they’re focused on one thing: becoming the best version of themselves.

They understand that true confidence comes from within, not from likes, approval, or tearing others down. By respecting boundaries, prioritizing health, growth mindset, and having integrity, they set themselves apart and create a life of purpose.

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Self-sabotage can often be seen through repetitive behaviors that at harmful to one’s needs or goals.

Some individuals are quite outspoken about it through their actions where others are more secretive by trying to stay under the radar.

Here are signs of people who self-sabotage in silence:

• They refuse to get support or ask for help
• They choose distraction over action
• They blame themselves and shut down
• They numb their feelings or hide out at home
• They act busy yet avoid reality
• They push people away through silence
• They stay in their comfort zone due to fear of failure
• They minimize their accomplishments or growth
• They stay in toxic situations too long
• They fail to set boundaries
• They avoid vulnerability
• They past mistakes or regrets define them

Have you ever abandoned your goals out of fear or know someone who self-sabotages?

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✨ The holidays are here, and while it’s a time for family and fun, it can also bring up those less-than-fun questions from relatives. You know the ones…

“Why are you still single after all these years?”
“Have you lost/gained weight since I saw you last?”
“How come you’ve changed? I love the old you.”

❔Questions like these can feel invasive, especially when they touch on personal goals, family choices, or even our bodies.

😩If you’re dreading these moments, here are a few reminders to help you stay grounded and keep your peace:

🌲 1. You Don’t Owe Anyone an Explanation
It’s okay to shut it down. “That’s an interesting question. I’d rather talk about something that the both of us can relate to.” is a perfectly valid answer.

🌲 2. Respond with Kindness, But Stay Firm
A calm response or a topic change can keep the conversation light without sacrificing your comfort. “Thanks for asking. How about we talk about {topic} instead?

🌲 3. Protect Your Peace
Take a deep breath, remind yourself of your worth, and don’t let anyone shake your self-confidence.

🌲 4. Remember, It’s Not About You
Often, these questions say more about the person asking than about you. It’s okay to let their opinions go, it’s often not a reflection of you but their own story with themselves.

✨The holidays are for you, too. Focus on what brings you joy and connection this season

📖Read Chapter 22 Holiday Boundaries in our book Boundary Badass to prepare your boundaries in advance. Link in bio

The more emotionally intelligent you become, the easier it is to detach from others’ projections.

When you understand your own emotions and boundaries, you stop absorbing the negativity or unrealistic expectations others try to place on you.

You gain the power to stay grounded in your truth and protect your peace.

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Ever noticed how some people avoid taking responsibility, deflecting blame onto others? Deflecting accountability often stems from fear—fear of failure, judgment, or confronting uncomfortable truths about themselves.

Sometimes, it’s a learned defense mechanism to protect a fragile self-image. But true growth requires facing our actions and embracing accountability, even when it’s hard.

Accountability isn’t a weakness; it’s a strength that leads to deeper connections and personal growth.

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It’s incredible how peaceful life becomes when you realize: it’s not your job to carry other people’s emotional baggage, soothe their insecurities, heal their wounds, or meet the version of “you” they’ve created.

Letting go of these responsibilities doesn’t make you selfish; it makes you empowered.

True freedom lies in stepping back and allowing others to navigate their own paths, while you focus on nurturing your own growth, joy, and well-being.

Remember, healthy boundaries are acts of love—for yourself and for others.

By releasing what isn’t yours to hold, you’re giving yourself space to thrive, pursue your goals, and attract relationships based on respect, trust, and authenticity.

This is your sign to reclaim your energy and feel the power of living life on your own terms.

Grab your personal copy of ‘Boundary Badass’ so you can elevate your value and relationships. Link in bio.

Change can be challenging, but it’s also essential for growth and progress. Resisting it prevents alignment and often leads to greater disconnects and discord.

Here’s why facing change, even when it feels uncomfortable, is so crucial:

💠Overcoming the Fear of the Unknown
Embracing change helps us build resilience against uncertainty. Facing the unknown can open doors to new opportunities and experiences we may never have imagined.

💠Regaining Control Through Adaptability
While change can feel like a loss of control, learning to adapt allows us to regain power over our responses. Flexibility is a powerful skill that strengthens our ability to manage life’s surprises.

💠Breaking Free from Routine Attachment
Routines provide comfort, but they can also create stagnation. Change forces us to step out of our comfort zones and discover new skills, strengths, and passions.

💠Conquering the Fear of Conflict or Rejection
Change often involves confronting tough conversations or risks. Facing these challenges builds courage and teaches us that conflict and rejection are often temporary, while growth is long-lasting.

💠Building Self-Esteem by Embracing Growth
Low self-esteem can hold us back from taking risks, but each change we face and overcome boosts our confidence. When we step up to the challenge, we prove to ourselves that we’re capable of more than we thought.

Change may feel uncomfortable, but it’s through embracing it that we truly evolve.

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🌱 Boundaries vs. Ultimatums 🌱

Do you know the difference between setting a boundary and issuing an ultimatum?

✨ Boundaries are about self-respect, mutual growth, and fostering safety in relationships.

➡️They:
•Regulate behaviors for safety and respect
•Allow us to connect without compromising our values
•Set a path for sustainable change and alignment
•Foster empathy, collaboration, and shared goals

⚠️ Ultimatums, on the other hand, often stem from a desire to control or manipulate.

➡️They:
•Block connection and create distrust
•Demand immediate change without dialogue
•Often lead to tension, conflict, and emotional projection

When we approach relationships with a “We” mindset instead of a “Me” mindset, we create a foundation for healthy, meaningful connections.

🙌🏽Let’s strive for understanding, connection, and mutual respect!

Ready to change your relationships where you feel powerful and confident to share what’s on your mind? Get your copy of BOUNDARY BADASS 🤍

Boundaries aren’t about building walls—they’re about creating pathways for respect, clarity, and trust. When we negotiate boundaries, we open doors for relationships to align and thrive.

The biggest misconception about boundaries is that they’re meant to create distance, but that only applies in situations that are unsafe.

In healthy dynamics, boundaries are a conflict resolution technique, allowing partners, family, colleagues, and friends to bridge perspectives and move forward together.

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High-value partners aren’t perfect but they listen to their partners, respect them, and do their best to make the relationship a priority. They understand there will be ups and downs but they make sure their partner feels heard and understood.

High-value partners also know that each partner will have personal goals outside of the relationship. They work together to support each other on achieving their aspirations while balancing the needs of the relationship.

What makes a high value partner to you?

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⭕️WHY SECURE PEOPLE KEEP A SMALL CIRCLE ⭕️

• They value depth over shallow conversations
• They understand the importance of boundaries
• They have no time for drama and prefer peace
• They value stability and alignment with others
• They conserve time and energy for their goals
• They are selective who they share with and trust
• They focus majority of their time on their life purpose
• They aren’t afraid to spend time alone in solitude
• They have high standards and values
• They believe in authenticity over popularity
• They prefer to keep a confidential support system
• They only value mutually respectful connections

❓Do you relate to any of the traits on the list❓

❓What else would you add ❓

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Arguments can shake anyone to their core. But when we manage to push through them, we realize how much closer we’ve become.

It’s hard to see in the heat of the moment, but we’ve learned that these difficult conversations make our bond stronger, even though it feels emotionally draining at first.

And keep in mind, just because we disagree or have different perspectives doesn’t necessarily mean we have to raise our voice to be heard.

Arguments can lead to healthy conversations where our relationships are ready to evolve into a healthier connection.

We can view arguments as a way to bridge the gap between our differences so we can live peacefully together; otherwise resentment and bitterness sets in when we silence our voice and are no longer speak our authentic truth.

And if you are the type or person who immediately shutdowns when an argument breaks out, ask yourself:
“How come I’m uncomfortable voicing my value and sharing what I believe?”
“What makes it hard to speak to this person?” “How come conflict feels overwhelming?”
“What would help me overcome my fears and anxiety in the heat of the moment?”
“What are ways I can shift my mindset around conflict and see it as an opportunity to connect?”

If you want to become a better communicator and negotiator when conflict arises, check out our book: Boundary Badass.

You will stop fearing tough conversations.
You will feel confident to voice your value.
You will know exactly what to say.
You will know how to suggest a time out.
You will be able to negotiate and suggest win-win solutions.
You will be able to show up authentically.
You will stop doubting yourself.
You will no longer blame yourself for the relationship issues.

Hit the link in bio and start communicating like a pro. You got this! 🤍

Be yourself.
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Ever notice how some friends always try to one-up you? It can feel like no matter what you share—your accomplishments, experiences, or ideas—they have to outdo it.

This behavior often stems from insecurity or the need to validate themselves by appearing superior. Instead of supporting and celebrating others, they measure their worth through comparison. Sometimes they might not even be aware as it’s a psychological blind spot.

True friendships are built on mutual respect and support, not competition. If you’re feeling drained by this dynamic, it might be time to set some boundaries and surround yourself with those who lift you up, not tear you down.

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If family boundaries are unclear, you might feel enmeshed-where your personal needs and space aren’t respected.

Healthy families allow each member to have clear, respectful boundaries while maintaining strong connections with each family member.

Boundaries are meant to honor the relationship where each family member has a voice in the matter.

If you try to give an ultimatum, demand, or control a family member, that only damages the connection and leads to discord.

We often hear how people are fearful to set boundaries out of fear, guilt, loss, or they just don’t know how to say it in a way that promotes growth.

The best way to express family boundaries is to understand the importance they hold, they are mutually beneficial for the relationship, and also be open to family members perspectives to form a shared agreement.

So if you are tired of everyone in your family knowing your personal business, or trying to project their expectations onto your life, this is your sign to speak up and set a boundary.

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🌟 Real Friends vs. Fake Friends: Know the Difference! 🌟

Friendship is a vital part of our lives, but not all friendships are created equal.

Here’s how to spot a real friend versus a fake friend:

🤍Traits of a Real Friend:🤍
•Supportive when you need it most
•Trustworthy and honest
•Communicates openly and sincerely
•Celebrates your successes genuinely
•Provides constructive feedback
•Shows up during tough times
•Respects your boundaries
•Invests time and effort into the relationship
•Encourages your personal growth
•Values authenticity and depth

💔Traits of a Fake Friend:💔
•Self-serving and only out for their own gain
•Dishonest or secretive
•Communicates manipulatively
•Feels jealous of your successes
•Gives empty compliments without meaning
•Disappears when you face challenges
•Disregards your limits and needs
•Only reaches out when it’s convenient for them
•Stifles your progress and aspirations
•Prefers superficial interactions over genuine connection

💫Surround yourself with real friends who uplift and inspire you! Know your worth and let go of those who don’t value your friendship.

📚Check out Chapter 13 for Friendship Boundaries where we break it down further and what to say when they don’t respect you.

At some point on our path we will experience takers, gaslighters, and self-serving individuals, this is when will be forced to set boundaries—not because we stop caring, but because we have to honor ourselves and energy from being drained.

When you’re naturally a giver and a lover, it can feel unnatural to pull back, but sometimes it’s necessary. Boundaries give us inner peace and protect our mental and emotional well-being, allowing us to give from a place of strength rather than depletion.

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Authors & Speakers Boundary Badass

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Discover Jan and Jillian's latest features here. They are available for print, podcasts, and media.

Reclaim Your Power

10 Differences Between Ultimatums & Boundaries That Will Change Your Relationships

ACCELERATE YOUR VALUE & POWER

SET BOUNDARIES LIKE A BADASS

ACHIEVE RELATIONSHIP RESOLUTION

Let's Connect

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Your Voice Is Your
Most Powerful Asset

Relationship Elevation
& Boundary Setting

SET BOUNDARIES
LIKE A BADASS

ACHIEVE RELATIONSHIP
RESOLUTION