Most people are taught that boundaries are something you set, firm lines drawn in the sand that others must respect. When those boundaries don’t hold, the advice is often to “be stronger,” “be clearer,” or “stop explaining yourself.” But the problem usually isn’t weak boundaries. It’s how they’re being framed. The Psychology of the “ME Mindset” A large portion of modern boundary-setting advice is rooted in individualism. This ME mindset  centers personal needs, autonomy, and